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What to Do and Not to Do | The Dos and Donts of Divorce

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What to Do and Not to Do | The Dos and Donts of Divorce

There are many actions that an individual can do when they are facing a divorce that can severely impact the outcome of their divorce, for the better or worse. Continue reading to discover the “dos” and “don’ts” to consider when facing a divorce. If you have any further questions regarding your divorce proceedings, do not hesitate to reach out to our experienced divorce attorney.

What to Do During a Divorce

Engaging in the following actions can increase your chances of having a positive outcome for your divorce proceedings:

  • Get a copy of your spouse’s last two paycheck stubs
  • Maintain good co-parenting practices
  • Keep a journal to document the exchange and pick up of any children you have
  • Keep any copies of money paid to your spouse
  • Seek out a CPA or accountant to help review the tax implications of your divorce
  • Seek help for any alcohol or illegal substance abuse
  • Know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.
  • Be sure to pay your child support on time
  • Know the total balance on any joint checking and savings bank accounts
  • Examine your credit history and get a credit report
  • Change passwords to all email accounts and social media sites
  • Disclose all assets and liabilities when filling out your inventory
  • Comply with any court-ordered injunctions and restrictions
  • Be aware of the household budget and expenses
  • Collect your last two tax returns, real estate deeds, and mortgage documents

What Not to Do During a Divorce

Avoid the following actions during a divorce; they may have a negative impact on the outcome of your divorce:

  • Keep secrets from your attorney
  • Give large contributions to anyone
  • Discuss the case with your children
  • Use your children as intermediaries
  • Start another romantic relationship
  • Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant
  • Move out of state with your children
  • Remove children from their current school
  • Buy real estate while the divorce is pending
  • Sell property without the court’s permission
  • Increase your debt while the divorce is pending
  • Bring a new significant other around your child
  • Buy extravagant items while the divorce is pending
  • Post information regarding your divorce on social media
  • Post anything on social media that can be used against you
  • Criticize your spouse in front of your children or the court hearings
  • Withhold visitation from your spouse for their failure to make child support payments
  • Send mean or negative emails, texts, messages, or any other form of written communication to your spouse

Contact our Firm

Ross and Calandrillo, LLC is a full-service divorce, family, and real estate law firm located in Mountainside, New Jersey. For strong legal representation in all of your divorce or family law matters, contact Ross and Calandrillo, LLC to schedule a consultation.

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Our firm believes that exploring alternatives to litigation can greatly benefit our client. Our firm’s established mediation practice can help you resolve family law issues more efficiently, amicably and at a lower cost. If you are interested in knowing more about our mediation services, contact the firm to discuss your situation.

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– Clarissa –

“Robyn Ross handled my two cases and won both, her passion and expertise was beyond a 5-star rating. She communicated with me through both cases...”

– Abdul –

“Liz represented me throughout a long and difficult divorce process. She was a godsend. Her knowledge, compassion, dedication, and commitment are unparalleled. I can not...”

– Peter –

“The hardest part of going through a divorce or separation is the children. I’m so thankful that I had this firm represent my case. Ross...”

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